Peer Pressure

Samantha Writes: hey guys,
I found you guys on youtube and thought your show is awesome!
anyways, I was wonderin if you guys can help me out with somethn.. It might sound silly but
Im a 17 year old virgin, but all my friends are already having sex,but so far, i just havent found the right guy yet.
Ive been talking to some guy for a few weeks, and i know he really likes me but im just not all that into him yet. He's already brought up sex a few times, but i turned him down.
I feel left out when my girls are talking about it, and they play around teasing me about how ill never loose it, im actually considering doing it.. I mean, he's a nice guy & were probably gonna make it offical soon, what do you guys think i should do? give into 'peer pressure' or just wait?
Thanks for listening,
ill appreciate any advice you may have. Thanks

Samantha


RealTalk Guru's Write: Hey Samantha

Sorry for the late reply
OMG! I hope we're not too late :P (just playin) (no not really)

We were gonna save this question for the next episode but your question seems like it needs immediate attention.

Now Samantha, ima be real with you right now....I know what it's like to be a youngin and be teased for being a virgin (trust me when i say it's a lot worse being a male virgin) however sex is not like the latest pair of shoes where everybody in your grade just has to have it, however a lot of times people get suckered into peer pressure and end up losing their virginity for "sport" rather than sharing something sacred with a person you genuinely care about.

Now i don't know this guy you're talking to right now and I don't want to be a troll and cock block the man but honestly, you really need to re-read your description of him....you wrote that you've been talking to him a few weeks(not months) and he's already brought up sex (not once, but a few times) umm what happened to the good old days of dating first? lol. Now maybe i'm looking too deep into all that and he's genuinely a nice guy who really likes you and if so, good for you...however you have to be careful in ur current situation because a lot of the times if a guy senses that a girl is vulnerable and is on the verge of giving up that Va Jay Jay...than he'll do whatever it takes to hit it and once he does, he'll stop calling, he'll stop talking all sweet, he'll stop acknowledging your existence and look for another virginal challenge.

So to sum everything up...if you morally believe that you'd rather wait until you find the right guy, or until you're married to give up your virginity than by all means do so because once it's gone it's gone for good, and you don't want your first time to be with some waste bag who never ever bought you flowers or massaged your feet or held your hair back while u puked up after one of them crazy drunk night parties....If this guy really likes he should be willing to wait for the time when you and ONLY you are ready.

Good luck Samantha and all the best

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