Wife meeting men online

Anonymous writes: this has been an issue for 10 years now. its not to just to have friends online, she gives her phone number to random men. she tries hidding it from me eveytime. would any one think there is a problem here? would this be considerd cheating? I feel like shes wanting something better in life, an am waisting time with this relationship. when i catch her she claims its just fantsy, but why would she hide it from me? our marriage has been riddled with dishonety issues for a long time now, and i feel its now a failed marriage. when i recomend disconecting the internet because im not ok with what she does she freaks out, so it makes me wonder what else is on there i dont know about. Is it wrong of me to want out of this situation?

Real Talk Guru's write:
it sounds like your wife has a void that needs to be filled...she is probably bored in the relationship and misses the excitement that you two once had in the beginning...there's nothing more exciting than meeting someone for the first time and getting to know them on a personal/intimate level (and this is not to say she doesn't love you but it could just mean that the spice is gone temporarily) and she may feel as tho she can no longer do that with you because you've been together for 10 years.

now ur probably reading this and thinking F***!
but not all is lost homie, but you definitely have to put in some work now if you still want to salvage the marriage and can overlook here sneaky ways ...u have to be spontaneous and fill that void...she says she does the online thing to fullfill her fantasy...well basically ur being left out of the loop and others are doing ur job...well hop online, create a profile or email or whatever and chat it up with her (but do it roleplay style) don't be you, be someone else and pretend you two are talking for the first time and take things back to when yall first met and try to get to know each other all over again....avoid having sex for about a week and eliminate all forms of contact within that time period but continue talking to her online as if you guys are going to meet for the first time after the week is over and talk about all the things u want to do to each other once you "Meet her" to build up that anticipation and that lust for one another

fill her in on what's going on and tell her it's something fun that you want to try

Good luck!



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