Flirting Turned Bad!

Anonymous writes: I was flirting online with a guy from another state that is friends with my friends. and my bf who i lived with would get angry and become violent sometimes, when i'd ignore him to talk with this guy.

he said it wasn't right for me to ask to use his things and live in his house and then betray him like that, i said it was harmless and i was just going along with there jokes
one day he got violent and backhanded me, and went to bed. the next night i went out and the guy was in town and i invited him to my sisters and me and him had sex. the next day my bf told me he was sorry for how he acted but that he was still angry about me flirting.
i accepted his apology and figured i'd forget what had happened.
a few nights later i was invited to a party the guy was there and one thing lead to another. i called my bf right after and asked him to come get me, it was around 4 am and he was already really mad about me going he knew the guy was there. but he agreed i was so happy with him, i went for a shower and then slept with my bf
a few days later we had an argument about something small and i got angry and told him what had happen to hurt him. he left for about 2 weeks and didn't talk to me.

i really love my bf and he has taken me back but i have so little patience for how he doesn't trust me anymore. his suspicious if i have male friends and if i go out or if i talk to them online. his no longer violent but he gets sick of me easily and will leave the house for the night if i upset him.

the thing with that guy is over.

how can i make things ok again? will he ever trust me?



Real Talk Guru's Write: Not one to judge but how can you expect to have patience for his trust when you've slept with some other dude? I'm surprised he even took you back to be honest....if my girl ever slept around on me I'd be out the door same as ur boyfriend only i wouldn't come back (unless of course it's my house, than you'd have to be the one to get the F out lol) but naw seriously....consider yourself very lucky because you kinda brought this on yourself, it started off as harmless flirting like you said but look what a little harmless flirting turned into...all i can say is you got alot of a** to kiss. Stop thinking about yourself and own up to your mistake before your boyfriend knuckles up on your a** again.


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